The List

I decided to start a list a few weeks back of all the “rules” and stupid things bf says to make me feel like a child, or to just put me down. I’ve just been adding to it whenever I remember something. And, I decided to post the list today,,,,hang on folks it’s a pretty long list.

  • Don’t slam the car door (bad for the car don’t you know. I’m really surprised that we don’t see more car doors falling off of cars driving down the highway).
  • Toilet seat must be down
  • Make sure the toilet does not run
  • Dish soap must be kept under the sink
  • No crumbs in the counter mice don’t you know 
  • I know nothing about the difference between floss vs toothpicks (even tho I am a Dental Assistant and he actually said this btw.)
  • Or wells
  • Or living in the country
  • Or medical stuff (i’m currently in college for Mediacal Administration and Transcription).
  • Or music
  • Or trivia
  • Or tuning of instruments (even tho I went to the Toronto School of the Arts for violin).
  • Temper tantrums (I never knew that grown men had tempertantrums like his,,ex: mr. “i’m the best omelette maker” failed at making his speciality,,got mad and thru the ruined egg mass AND frying pan outside). Need more examples,,,I got lots just ask.
  • No eating in the car
  • Can’t have a drink in the passenger cup holder of the car(but it’s ok for him to smoke in the car)
  • The other cup holder is clearly to hold his phone and cigarettes and lighter
  • Oh and he can drink his coffee in the car don’t you know ’cause he’s the MAN
  • It’s more important to fix the shed in the backyard. Than it is to fix under the sink where the field mice come come in over the winter when it gets cold. But, when they do come in,,it’s my fault because of toast crumbs.
  • He was too receive a hefty amount of inheritence from when his gma passed away,,he asked if I needed anything,,,and I mentioned that all I would really like is to replace my old winter coat and a pair of winter boots. Not going to happen now,,,since he announced all the money is gone,,,,and in the next breath,,,laughed at how he spent over a grand on his children that won’t even grace us with their presence. I won’t EVEN go into all the shit he bought for himself.

These one’s are just from this morning on the 20 min car ride into town.

  • I’m sooo lucky to have such a nice bf to drive me to the city for school or he could just drop me off at the bus stop like those other poor saps  I was in such shock of this statement,,that I didn’t say anything,,but he made a shocked comment about my facial expression,,(guess it was the are you fucking kidding me look).
  • I made a comment how my buddy Amber from Words Become Superfluous had a posted aJake Gillenhall spotting down in Toronto at TIFF. He was kind enough to enlighten me that is “that guy” from broke back mountain–thanks Asswhole,,,,I never knew that.

There is soooooo much more,,,but I’m just starting school,,,,and i’m getting angry.

The thing that pisses me off is that when you start dating these people they show you that they CAN be nice,caring and generally do give a shit what you think. Then when they’ve got you where they want you they turn into a narcissistic piece of crap.

I can’t wait to get out.

But now my worrying is starting,,,it’s the “what if’s”,,,what if my student loan money doesn’t come thru. What if I don’t find a job right away,,,,and now i’m having bad problems with my hands,,and i’m worrying about that,,,I don’t even have money for prescriptions if I need them and have to lower myself to asking him to pay for them.

My anxiety is waking me up at night,,,guess I will have the dr. for more of these pills now too,,,,,,,


8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. El Guapo
    Sep 09, 2013 @ 13:27:08

    Holy fuck, get out!
    For some reason, I’ve come across a lot of stories about people escaping narcissistic relationships. I know nothing at all about them, but this sounds like the start of it.
    So please, get the hell out of there the second you can.


  2. Sofia Leo
    Sep 09, 2013 @ 18:09:44

    He was a narcissistic asshole in the beginning, too, he just hid it from you 😦 Your rules sound very much like the rules I had to live under. He’s a dick. Can’t wait to read your “I’m finally free!” post!


    • overitblogdotcom
      Sep 09, 2013 @ 18:12:43

      Thanks Sofia, I’m now realizing that his ex wives and girlfriends probably left him for the same reasons. But he made himself out as the victim.


      • Sofia Leo
        Sep 09, 2013 @ 18:18:59

        They always make themselves out to be the victim, but really, how many Good Men have multiple relationships where they’re truly victimized, and how many of them talk about how they were “wronged” ad nauseum for years? The Really Good Men get snapped up and the smart women who found them never let go.

        It’s a huge Red Flag, IMHO, when a potential or new partner starts bitching non-stop about their exes and how they “don’t want you to be like him/her.” Healthy people move on or at least let the venom towards their exes go in order to live again. Disordered people project their crap onto partner after partner.

  3. Twindaddy
    Sep 09, 2013 @ 19:29:36

    You’ll be outta there soon enough. Keep your head up and hang in there.


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